I want to understand the fetish (1 Viewer)

[zakoexplorer1234]

My bf just recently told me about this zako fetish. It has been years and he has kept this much of a secret of his, he told me when he was drunk. He didn't want to tell me much about it. He felt ashamed. And I wanted to know how can I explore this with him. Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

I thought he was vanilla all this time, at least with me. Turns out he was just hidding things from me. I am really open minded, he knows this but he still doesn't want to talk about it.

 

[Bigman]

My bf just recently told me about this zako fetish. It has been years and he has kept this much of a secret of his, he told me when he was drunk. He didn't want to tell me much about it. He felt ashamed. And I wanted to know how can I explore this with him. Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

I thought he was vanilla all this time, at least with me. Turns out he was just hidding things from me. I am really open minded, he knows this but he still doesn't want to talk about it.

Oh trust me your absolutely welcomed here! It's an odd thing but it's interesting and can be fun. Especially with the different people that are into it and different stuff you can do like roleplay and other things. Hell theirs even a few discords and other stuff dedicated to Zakos and henchgirls

 

[JoanCujoh]

My bf just recently told me about this zako fetish. It has been years and he has kept this much of a secret of his, he told me when he was drunk. He didn't want to tell me much about it. He felt ashamed. And I wanted to know how can I explore this with him. Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

I thought he was vanilla all this time, at least with me. Turns out he was just hidding things from me. I am really open minded, he knows this but he still doesn't want to talk about it.

Hello!
It's true that for many of us, it was hard to come up to our partner with this fetish, It took me a long time for me to finally be ok with it. As I discover more fetish and realizing than zako was just bdsm with a huge emphasis on rp. But for a long time, I had in mind the fact that, yeah my fetish is "I like beating/killing women" evil for sure, thats part of the rp, but still a big component.
I'm in the zako fetish since I'm 8 (totally spies you got me!!!) and in the fetish itself since more than 10 years. And as much I talk to people, I realize they werent freak who hate women. It's also have lot of people in lgbtq community (I'm myself a trans gal) and also a lot of open minded persons, I talk to a lot with people I consider dear friends now, and I wouldnt have it in an other context and I'm glad.
You can tell you bf that, in term of fetish it's fine and it's even funnier to discover and try thing in bed, talking about which outfit can be cool, what kind of rp, how to do the action scene or the infiltration...A LOT OF FUN THING
so yeah reassure him and if you have more question about it, I'm here if you want to talk about it :)

 

[horatiojones80]

I think if you tell him that you're willing to roleplay with him on it he'll be thrilled, at least I'd be, but then again I guess it's up to the individual. I haven't told my partner yet either. The reason is that I have no idea how to explain it without it coming out sounding like "I hate women", or being able to get through the specifics of my particular fetish (basically having a gender swapped james bond movie with female guards and baddies) without having to answer a fuckton of questions that I don't even know the answer to. I've just always told my partners in the past to lay face down and let my imagination do the rest, but I do plan on telling my current partner. It just hasn't happened yet.

 

[smthng]

Hi,
My exgirlfriend found out about my fetish and acted while we were being intimate. And I hated it. I didn’t want to see the girl I love suffering even as acting.
My fetish comes from how lives are precious and women lives are sacred and this somehow makes feel attracted to multiple women throwing their lives away and regarded as worthless. It’s said that violence and sex are intertwined, I guess it is kinda like that.
As for role play you can’t clone yourself and become a squad of women but you can act as a sentry and he could play as infiltrator. You can suggest this maybe he’ll agree to it.
What you are doing is super nice and he is lucky to have you but don’t feel excluded if he wants to keep this fetish to himself because that’s how I felt at the time.

 

[Maxz]

In my cognition, even if they are all zako fetish, there are many different starting points.

For many zako fans, zako is a kind of attribute, just like the commonly mentioned "loli", "tomboy" and so on among anime fans. They notice and are fascinated by the "common" and "pitiful" characteristics of zako. It's just that these characteristics are often better reflected under the premise of fight scene.

To some people, they reflected in the zako character (okay, I admit I'm one of them). We might have a bit of a masochistic streak, enjoying zako's mediocre and seemingly insignificant status, being treated violently and indifferently, yet still being chosen and loved in the end. We can feel a sense of empathy from such a zako.

Of course, others may simply enjoy violence, sex, or for various other reasons.

I can't speak for everyone else, but at least for me, I don't bring zako fetish into my real life. Don't view anyone, including myself, through that lens. It's just a preference for a certain type of artistic work. I'm not seeking, nor do I want, any connection between my partner and zako fetish.What I got in the Zako Fetish community is already enough. I have other interests and loves outside of it, and still want get along with her in a "vanilla way" . But I have to admit, I haven't had the courage to confess my hobby to her yet, because afraid of being misunderstood as someone who likes violence and hates women. I think that's a common misconception about zako fetish.

Just relax a bit, zako fetish is really... not that strange (I've seen much stranger things). Talk more with your BF. Maybe he's also the type of person who doesn't want to bring it into real life, or maybe he just said it out of shame for hiding it.

I'm not a native English speaker, so my words might a bit odd. Hope you can understand the general meaning. And also hope this can help you.

 

[osw]

Feels like mine came from a response to seeing a lot of misogyny. Want to see the zakos at the center of the spotlight, explore their designs and characterizations and have them leave a strong intense impression on the heroes. Don't think their fighting and their crimes reduce any of their attractiveness. Some people are entertaining by the heroes kicking their ass but I'm focusing on them, it's not superficial beauty even though they're only written to be that. They have a kind of purity.

 

[ran]

Based on what I see in the past decade, the fetish differs from person to person, even in zako range. Someone may like one element while others do not. Each zako lover may have a different scenario as this forum shows.
Therefore, it is hard to know what exactly your boyfriend likes from us. If he does not want to talk about it, then let it be.
What I can say is, as a fetish this one maybe strange but not more evil than other fetish and people with this fantasy would not bring it to real life.

 

[Zamaron1]

In my cognition, even if they are all zako fetish, there are many different starting points.

For many zako fans, zako is a kind of attribute, just like the commonly mentioned "loli", "tomboy" and so on among anime fans. They notice and are fascinated by the "common" and "pitiful" characteristics of zako. It's just that these characteristics are often better reflected under the premise of fight scene.

To some people, they reflected in the zako character (okay, I admit I'm one of them). We might have a bit of a masochistic streak, enjoying zako's mediocre and seemingly insignificant status, being treated violently and indifferently, yet still being chosen and loved in the end. We can feel a sense of empathy from such a zako.

Of course, others may simply enjoy violence, sex, or for various other reasons.

I can't speak for everyone else, but at least for me, I don't bring zako fetish into my real life. Don't view anyone, including myself, through that lens. It's just a preference for a certain type of artistic work. I'm not seeking, nor do I want, any connection between my partner and zako fetish.What I got in the Zako Fetish community is already enough. I have other interests and loves outside of it, and still want get along with her in a "vanilla way" . But I have to admit, I haven't had the courage to confess my hobby to her yet, because afraid of being misunderstood as someone who likes violence and hates women. I think that's a common misconception about zako fetish.

Just relax a bit, zako fetish is really... not that strange (I've seen much stranger things). Talk more with your BF. Maybe he's also the type of person who doesn't want to bring it into real life, or maybe he just said it out of shame for hiding it.

I'm not a native English speaker, so my words might a bit odd. Hope you can understand the general meaning. And also hope this can help you.

Honestly zako is a wierd fetish, but with how wierd things have gotten more public with the whole LGBT thing blowing up in recent years (No problem with them in most cases), interest in zako ironically can still be best left to a private place, as there's still a stigma against violance to women, even just saying you like it only in a fictional sense can make many people look badly on you. So best you just keep it to yourself or with people you know won't likely judge you for it.

 

[Zamaron1]

My bf just recently told me about this zako fetish. It has been years and he has kept this much of a secret of his, he told me when he was drunk. He didn't want to tell me much about it. He felt ashamed. And I wanted to know how can I explore this with him. Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

I thought he was vanilla all this time, at least with me. Turns out he was just hidding things from me. I am really open minded, he knows this but he still doesn't want to talk about it.

Honestly, still best to keep it between you 2 or a few you know won't judge you for it. Just be honest with him, tell him you like it too now. Zako RP can be a great way to spice up sex time. Normally you're just banging, but adding a bit of story to it can make it more fun. SImply put on some kind of sexy outfit, and play out you're a zako he kills and fucks. Like some guys have said, some don't like this idea, but just ask you BF, and if you want to give it a try take it simple, such as a few fake punches and screams and a light fake "choke", you go limp and he does the rest with your "dead" body. If you like it you can try new ideas, and if you got money to spare it's a great reason to by a bunch of costumes or diverse sexy clothes, great for having him "strip your uniform". Hey if you ever want to roleplay zako stories, plenty of us you can do it with on Discord. I'm always up for it.
You can message me on Discord at Zamaron1#1264.

If you're looking for artwork here's a great link to look for. On Pixiv I recomend havign Google Translate on your web browser.

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[Zamaron1]

My bf just recently told me about this zako fetish. It has been years and he has kept this much of a secret of his, he told me when he was drunk. He didn't want to tell me much about it. He felt ashamed. And I wanted to know how can I explore this with him. Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

I thought he was vanilla all this time, at least with me. Turns out he was just hidding things from me. I am really open minded, he knows this but he still doesn't want to talk about it.

I got into zako for a simple reason, I hit puberty, was curious about girls. Also loved superhero stuff but found male goons boring, I don't know where it started for me but I like zakos because female goons are very rare since males are the ones who are the common goons. It's especially nice if the zako is either from a franchise I love, or very sexy. Just somethign very alluring seeing a hot girl getting killed in a fictional setting, especially if there's a bunch of them, and being zakos means most times they're eveil, so they deserve it a bit.

 

[Kristopher Prime]

My bf just recently told me about this zako fetish. It has been years and he has kept this much of a secret of his, he told me when he was drunk. He didn't want to tell me much about it. He felt ashamed. And I wanted to know how can I explore this with him. Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

I thought he was vanilla all this time, at least with me. Turns out he was just hidding things from me. I am really open minded, he knows this but he still doesn't want to talk about it.

you are welcome to it at any time. heck, if you jump into it with him in some way, it does show you are a keeper as you don't mind him having said fetish. you stand by him even with such "oddities". one of the issues with this fetish is that it's basically "fap material", if you pardon my phrasing. the root of it is usually sexy henchgirls getting beaten up or killed. if one's girlfriend finds out, it can usually end a relationship since its "worse" in some ways than regular porn (women often getting metaphorically treated as "lower than dirt"). in some ways, kinda "anti-feminist". heck, people don't usually have this interest with henchmen outside how cool said goon type is.

 

[battlebabes]

I think it's kind of like playing "cowboys and indians" or "cops and robbers," but for adults.

 

[ZYSRGV]

Is there even a place for me in this? Or is it something done solo? He is really shy so I don't think he wants to roleplay at all.

Honestly? Many of us prefer to keep this stuff to ourselves, because we know how controversial it is. There are ways to bring this kink into the bedroom, as others have said, but from what little I've heard it sounds like that's not what your BF is looking for. It's entirely possible that just letting him know you're okay with it is enough.

If you really want to "get" it, I'd recommend a cult classic anime from the 90s called Agent Aika, something of a universal favorite in these circles. The antagonists (read: real main characters) are the Delmogeny, an all-female private army working for Rudolf Hagen. (He also plans on making them his harem once he destroys the world, but he never gets that far.) The Delmos have an iconic uniform featuring incredibly short miniskirts, and the camera misses no opportunity for a panty shot. There's a fan wiki that comprehensively nicknames and catalogs EVERY Delmo they can find, just to give you an idea of how much we love them. The animation is weirdly high-quality, and there's a lot of great action scenes. Agent Aika is also generally very tame in terms of violence, which is far and away the most objectionable part of the kink, and there's no explicit sex scenes or anything, so the risk of getting grossed out is minimal. Give it a try if you're curious, because I honestly can't think of a better way to get someone to understand the appeal.

 

[Kristopher Prime]

Honestly? Many of us prefer to keep this stuff to ourselves, because we know how controversial it is. There are ways to bring this kink into the bedroom, as others have said, but from what little I've heard it sounds like that's not what your BF is looking for. It's entirely possible that just letting him know you're okay with it is enough.

If you really want to "get" it, I'd recommend a cult classic anime from the 90s called Agent Aika, something of a universal favorite in these circles. The antagonists (read: real main characters) are the Delmogeny, an all-female private army working for Rudolf Hagen. (He also plans on making them his harem once he destroys the world, but he never gets that far.) The Delmos have an iconic uniform featuring incredibly short miniskirts, and the camera misses no opportunity for a panty shot. There's a fan wiki that comprehensively nicknames and catalogs EVERY Delmo they can find, just to give you an idea of how much we love them. The animation is weirdly high-quality, and there's a lot of great action scenes. Agent Aika is also generally very tame in terms of violence, which is far and away the most objectionable part of the kink, and there's no explicit sex scenes or anything, so the risk of getting grossed out is minimal. Give it a try if you're curious, because I honestly can't think of a better way to get someone to understand the appeal.

honestly, it's very "tasteful" when it comes to fetishizing the women without making them TOO expendable. the heroes will smack them around with little hesitation (which does make it a good entry point for zako as all enemies BUT the head honcho are sexy bimbos), but they do stop short of outright killing or raping them. and the delmos DO have some level of individuality and personality in the show. you can pick out individual girls to document the fates and experiences of. even the remnant leadership (after Hagen's fall) gave up the vengeful war on Aika after one massive showdown that left many of the girls injured but hardly dead. although simultaneously, it is quite disappointing for me they don't go that far with the mistreatment of the henchgirls. would have LOVED to see them usually get slaughtered (things like neck snaps at the very least). the sexual stuff would be a bonus, though.

 

[Kristopher Prime]

Honestly? Many of us prefer to keep this stuff to ourselves, because we know how controversial it is. There are ways to bring this kink into the bedroom, as others have said, but from what little I've heard it sounds like that's not what your BF is looking for. It's entirely possible that just letting him know you're okay with it is enough.

If you really want to "get" it, I'd recommend a cult classic anime from the 90s called Agent Aika, something of a universal favorite in these circles. The antagonists (read: real main characters) are the Delmogeny, an all-female private army working for Rudolf Hagen. (He also plans on making them his harem once he destroys the world, but he never gets that far.) The Delmos have an iconic uniform featuring incredibly short miniskirts, and the camera misses no opportunity for a panty shot. There's a fan wiki that comprehensively nicknames and catalogs EVERY Delmo they can find, just to give you an idea of how much we love them. The animation is weirdly high-quality, and there's a lot of great action scenes. Agent Aika is also generally very tame in terms of violence, which is far and away the most objectionable part of the kink, and there's no explicit sex scenes or anything, so the risk of getting grossed out is minimal. Give it a try if you're curious, because I honestly can't think of a better way to get someone to understand the appeal.

understandable why most would keep it to themselves. zako fetish is basically a weird form of porn. and much like porn, if your lover catches you, it implies you are unfaithful as your eyes are drawn to other lovely women (let alone expendable women getting smacked around).

 

[dantethedarkprince]

zako, snuff, somnophilia, asphyxiation...everybody has a kink. The difference is whether or not you accept that kink and have fun with it, or let it nag at you. My suggestion, role play and have a safeword at the ready

 

[afasdafas01]

While it might differ for other people, I know for a fact that at least for me, this idea is strictly fantasy and would never cross into the real world. I do not like to imagine women I actually care about in the zako role. Not even for non-combatant fictional characters that I like. It just doesn't work that way for me.

For me, the zako have to be combatants who were ready to kill others before meeting the same fate. I doesn't work otherwise.

Besides that, while I don't understand it fully, it probably has to do with finding feminine fragility attractive. Similar reason might be why I also have a fetish for seeing women wear really shiny pantyhose - something so beautiful, feminine, yet so very fragile.

I don't even imagine myself in these scenarios as the aggressor either, so it's not a power fantasy. I think I just like the idea of feminine fragility by itself, without necessarily wanting to play a role in it.

I guess this just reiterates the point that zako is a very broad term that has many different kinds of flavors. I'm sure lots of people want to handle this differently, too. To me, I know for a fact that I will never ever tell anyone I personally know about this, and if your partner just slipped up and doesn't want to elaborate further, it's not necessarily indicative of a lack of trust. Maybe he just wants a clear separation between reality and fantasy, like I do. This fantasy in violent, but I do not like violence in real life, at all.

And generally, I think opening up about any kind of kink is really hard. I remember I told a previous girlfriend about my thing for pantyhose, and she did not make the effort to understand, just found it weird and made it clear she will never wear anything like that. That kind of attitude was completely out of nowhere, too, and we went our separate ways almost immediately after. I haven't told anyone about it ever since, not even any of my later partners. And this is about a completely harmless fetish for women wearing a certain kind of clothing, now imagine what reservations one might have about telling others about the fetish for zako.

Anyway, I find it really encouraging that you are making the effort to understand, and I sincerely hope things work out well for both of you!

 

[horatiojones80]

While it might differ for other people, I know for a fact that at least for me, this idea is strictly fantasy and would never cross into the real world. I do not like to imagine women I actually care about in the zako role. Not even for non-combatant fictional characters that I like. It just doesn't work that way for me.

For me, the zako have to be combatants who were ready to kill others before meeting the same fate. I doesn't work otherwise.

Besides that, while I don't understand it fully, it probably has to do with finding feminine fragility attractive. Similar reason might be why I also have a fetish for seeing women wear really shiny pantyhose - something so beautiful, feminine, yet so very fragile.

I don't even imagine myself in these scenarios as the aggressor either, so it's not a power fantasy. I think I just like the idea of feminine fragility by itself, without necessarily wanting to play a role in it.

I guess this just reiterates the point that zako is a very broad term that has many different kinds of flavors. I'm sure lots of people want to handle this differently, too. To me, I know for a fact that I will never ever tell anyone I personally know about this, and if your partner just slipped up and doesn't want to elaborate further, it's not necessarily indicative of a lack of trust. Maybe he just wants a clear separation between reality and fantasy, like I do. This fantasy in violent, but I do not like violence in real life, at all.

And generally, I think opening up about any kind of kink is really hard. I remember I told a previous girlfriend about my thing for pantyhose, and she did not make the effort to understand, just found it weird and made it clear she will never wear anything like that. That kind of attitude was completely out of nowhere, too, and we went our separate ways almost immediately after. I haven't told anyone about it ever since, not even any of my later partners. And this is about a completely harmless fetish for women wearing a certain kind of clothing, now imagine what reservations one might have about telling others about the fetish for zako.

Anyway, I find it really encouraging that you are making the effort to understand, and I sincerely hope things work out well for both of you!

For me there's this weird "meta fantasy" aspect for me. I do not fantasize about a woman being in an actual zako or dangerous scenario. If I see an attractive woman in a movie or walking down the street or whatever and I start getting sexual fantasies in my head, the fantasy that plays in my head is that we are engaged in some sort of consensual LARP scenario where she falls on top of me and plays dead and sticks out her tongue, or that she takes a job as an actress in a B movie where she plays a henchwoman that gets taken out and the camera focuses on her butt while she's wearing tight pants and I accidently stumble on it. Or I meet up with some chick who played a sexy henchbabe from a bad action movie, especially if she's a stuntwoman with a big butt and we rewatch the scene of her getting taken out while we bang in a hotel room.

 

[The Cire]

While it might differ for other people, I know for a fact that at least for me, this idea is strictly fantasy and would never cross into the real world. I do not like to imagine women I actually care about in the zako role. Not even for non-combatant fictional characters that I like. It just doesn't work that way for me.

For me, the zako have to be combatants who were ready to kill others before meeting the same fate. I doesn't work otherwise.

Besides that, while I don't understand it fully, it probably has to do with finding feminine fragility attractive. Similar reason might be why I also have a fetish for seeing women wear really shiny pantyhose - something so beautiful, feminine, yet so very fragile.

I don't even imagine myself in these scenarios as the aggressor either, so it's not a power fantasy. I think I just like the idea of feminine fragility by itself, without necessarily wanting to play a role in it.

I guess this just reiterates the point that zako is a very broad term that has many different kinds of flavors. I'm sure lots of people want to handle this differently, too. To me, I know for a fact that I will never ever tell anyone I personally know about this, and if your partner just slipped up and doesn't want to elaborate further, it's not necessarily indicative of a lack of trust. Maybe he just wants a clear separation between reality and fantasy, like I do. This fantasy in violent, but I do not like violence in real life, at all.

And generally, I think opening up about any kind of kink is really hard. I remember I told a previous girlfriend about my thing for pantyhose, and she did not make the effort to understand, just found it weird and made it clear she will never wear anything like that. That kind of attitude was completely out of nowhere, too, and we went our separate ways almost immediately after. I haven't told anyone about it ever since, not even any of my later partners. And this is about a completely harmless fetish for women wearing a certain kind of clothing, now imagine what reservations one might have about telling others about the fetish for zako.

Anyway, I find it really encouraging that you are making the effort to understand, and I sincerely hope things work out well for both of you!

I have similar sentiments. It's just niche entertainment, in my opinion. I can separate it from reality. I look at it sort of the same way I look at WWE, or superhero movies, or even horror movies. WWE divas punch, kick, and slam each other in the wrestling ring, but at the end of the day they are professionals and it's all for show. Seeing women getting beaten up in real life is horrific, and not something I condone or want to see. Zako, on the other hand, is fantasy performance. Underneath it all, we know it's staged & choreographed, but still entertaining. I think that it's just part of the wide spectrum of sexuality that is still quite niche and misunderstood.